Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself


Alain de Botton and a quick exercise on self compassion.  I think in our rush to get things started and done at this time of year we all need a bit of this.

The Ingredients Of Love


An enlightening explanation from Alain de Botton on True Love of Self and Others.

Any info on how we can all love more is always helpful.

Getting Out There

When you say I’m nowhere, let in some space and
you are suddenly now here.

When you step away and give yourself some air, you shift a bit
And that’s what makes the difference.

Getting Back on the Playground

Children don’t give up.   When they’re on the playground and fall down and scrape their knee, they don’t say ‘ I’m never going back to the playground, I got hurt there’.  No they get up, maybe have a cry, then start playing all over again.

Why as adults do we give up having fun on the playground because we scraped our knee?

If I think about it, it’s  rather silly, to miss out  on what was fun the majority of the time for the once or twice it wasn’t.   I will, of course try to remember how I scraped my knee and avoid doing it again, but I’m not going to tip toe through the fun in case it happens again.  I’m just going to bring more Band-Aids.

One of my favourite songs about this game of life.

Being yourself

I saw a wonderful t-shirt  the other day   Be Yourself Everyone else is taken

Why do we find that so hard?  What are we afraid of?  Are we not liking ourselves? Why?  If we don’t like ourselves only we can change that.


“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

 – Dr. Seuss, was an American writer and cartoonist most widely known for his children’s books.

Jazzy Joy

“Ancient Egyptians believed that upon death they would be asked  two questions and their answers would determine whether they could  continue their journey in the afterlife. The first question was, “Did  you bring joy?” The second was, “Did you find joy?'”
Leo Buscaglia

Joy definition – a great pleasure, something causing delight.

Joy can be the perfect yummy cookie or a smile from a stranger.

Give or get one of those today.

Create a joy journal which is really an awareness balance book, but joy journal sounds jollier.  At  the end of each day, on one side, write what joy you gave,  on the other what joy you found.  You can keep it simple or elaborate.

It seems mundane, but the actual doing of it makes a huge shift in your awareness.  Which page is fuller? It may change your perspective of giving and receiving joy. You don’t have to do anything earthshaking to bring joy into people’s lives, you just have to be present, do a bit of improv, think jazz rhythm .  Somedays one side will be fuller, did that make for a better day? or is a balanced day better?

Joy peeks around corners, keep your eyes and ears open.  Offering it to others increases the chance of seeing or hearing it.

The bonus in keeping a jazzy joy journal is you’ll have it all in writing when you’re asked at death.

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